Most of our discussions are based on relationships, isn't it? It is the single most pampered entity among friends, especially close ones. It enjoys a lot of hype and even though I hate to say it, but it does affect me and it definitely rules my thoughts when I allow myself to be sad.
So, what exactly have I got to say today? Feelings? Commitment? Breakup? Togetherness? Not really. I think I should write about the root cause of all these - Expectations!Yes, I believe expectations are behind the success and failure of any relationship. Pardon me for my words. I know there never can be success or failure in a relationship but what I meant by it is the probability of two people ending up together as per their commitment at some point of time in their life.
I don't know what a guy expects. But I believe a girl looks for her best friend in her life partner.She wants someone who accepts her for what she is without any judgement. She wants someone who accepts her mistakes, her follies, her silliness, her stubbornness with a greater heart.Someone who can understand her silence, her loudness,her tears and her smiles with a difference. She doesn't seek a highly qualified person always nor does she want a rich beau to confide in. She seeks the shoulders of someone when she feels tired of switching among the myriad roles she has been playing or has to continue playing throughout her life. She admires the person who likes her without the heavy makeup. She respects the person who respects her thoughts, her ideals and her most importantly. She wants to spend the rest of her life with the person who can forgive her for what she did. She likes being led by him and being taken care of . She wants him to understand why she cannot see him with another girl. She wants him to know that even though she doesn't say it often but she envisions an entire life with him when she commits.
So the next time, you feel that you haven't understood your girl or would never understand, try to think over. You haven't tried enough.Because once you do, you cannot possibly ever get anyone who understands you better or a life partner like her.
2 comments:
Yes, it's the expectations from a relationship that we nurture that ultimately starts burdening it and kills it sometimes (if the expectations aren't reasonable.) But it's also very natural to have expectations from someone we love dearly and genuinely care about, and it pains a lot when our feelings aren't reciprocated and when we are taken for granted (in this fickle world, now-a-days more often than not, one's convenience is deciding his/her priorities.) One feels cheated and emotionally drained if the efforts and time being put into the relationship aren't mutual, and the relationship won't last for long.
But having said that, whether by choice or due to circumstances, aame samaste praya badali thau and aamara relationships bhi sei anusare badali jaithaye. As they say, connections are made with the heart and relationships evolve over time :))
So we shouldn't keep looking back at how it used to be in the past nor should we think too much into the future as to how it will be then... rather we should live in the present and accept the relationship as it is now and keep working on it :))
Patience in Understanding one's partner, Being sensitive to his/her emotions and feelings, Trust and Acceptance -- these are perhaps the key ingredients for a healthy and lifelong relationship.
May everyone find his/her true love at the earliest and May God keep the 'meant-for-each-other' couple together, always, for eternity! May they fight sometimes like cats and dogs and knock down each other and the next moment, pick each other up, hug and sit down to have coffee together watching TV... Amen :))
I can't say much about what other boys wish for while looking for their life-partners but this is how I have had always wanted about my life-partner --
Into the Wishing Well
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